A glorious period is upon us, and even though economic times are uncertain for a number of people, many of us have multiple reasons to be thankful. We have a roof over our heads, clothes to keep us warm, and friends to send us cheer. Therefore, as we immerse ourselves in the holiday season, let’s look at some ways to keep the spirit joyful.
- Put giving into perspective. Gifts mean different things to different people. For some, it’s a small token to express how much the person means. For others, it’s serious business that can affect a relationship. If gift giving has come to control your understanding of the holidays, perhaps it might be time to step back and take a breath or two. Sure, gifts are nice, but they shouldn’t dominate the season. And, when materialism takes over, it tends to overshadow the more important festivities. A thought? In lieu of buying a loved one numerous or expensive presents, perhaps consider making a donation to a beloved charity in the individual’s name. What could be more satisfying than knowing you’re helping to make a disadvantaged life brighter?
- Minimize the pressure. Some individuals have multiple chores to accomplish during this cheerful season. Nonetheless, many of the expectations we believe we have we place upon ourselves. Therefore, relax. For example, if you are hosting a holiday dinner, accept participation from those around you so your tasks are not as plentiful (yes, we can rewrite our own rules!). If that does not seem feasible, then have some of the food catered. If that is not possible, then create dishes that are easy to prepare. Essentially, remove the weight from your shoulders. In the long run, you’ll have a better time.
- Encourage participation. If there are several duties on the holiday list (e.g., decorating, shopping, cooking, wrapping), ask your husband, wife, children, and/or other loved ones for help. Occasionally we assume that others should know when we are becoming overwhelmed, but they may not see it that way. A simple request like, “Honey, do you think you can set Sunday afternoon aside and help me?” can go a long way in getting the assistance we need. Nonetheless, if the person is not receptive, only do the duties you can comfortably accomplish. For example, if lights don’t end up on the outside tree, so be it. This is a time for joy, not angst.
- Enjoy the moment. Oftentimes there is one aspect of the holidays that truly warms our hearts. Yet, we never come to experience this happiness because we’re too busy doing other things. Thus, if you love holiday music, pretty storefront windows, decorated churches, department store Santas, the town’s grand Christmas tree, lighting the Menorah, volunteering at the local soup kitchen, walking under mistletoe, etc., revel in these things. Sometimes we become so rushed we forget how to take pleasure in the activities that really mean something to us.
Pretty lights, melodic bells, festive music, colorful decorations, stunning candelabras, happy children, yes, they’re all around. Even so, a spirit of joy can exist at any time of the year. So, now and always, let us count our blessings and rejoice!
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