Many geographical areas have celebrated some form of Mother’s Day in their traditions. Ancient Greece enacted festivities in tribute to the Mother of the Gods. In the 1600’s, Christians in England designated a day to honor Mary, the mother of Jesus (the celebration eventually expanded to all mothers). Vietnam chose the 15th day in the seventh month of the lunar calendar to pay respect to living and deceased mothers. And Nepal has a yearly festival called Mata Tirtha Aunshi which esteems mothers.
The United States began honoring a type of Mother’s Day following the Civil War. Julia Ward Howe, an activist, was overly dismayed by the casualties of combat and vehemently worked for peace. She pleaded with women in America and Europe to passionately strive for nonviolence. Because of Howe, in the 1870’s, a “Mother’s Day for Peace” was observed on the second Sunday in June. Although the tradition ended after several years, her efforts will always be remembered.
Ann Jarvis is the individual most responsible for the “Mother’s Day” as we know it. Javis’ own mother was a champion. She strove to improve sanitation after the Civil War and worked diligently to unite Confederate and Union residents. Jarvis was greatly influenced by her mother’s altruistic nature and took care of her in her elderly years. When her mother died in 1905, Jarvis was especially pained. She reflected that mothers are not nearly as appreciated as they should be (amen!). Jarvis made it her mission to observe a day honoring mothers. On May 10, 1908, the first “Mother’s Day” was celebrated. Word of the commemoration began to spread, and on May 9, 1914, a proclamation was made by President Wilson declaring the second Sunday in May to officially be Mother’s Day.
Families around America celebrate Mother’s Day in varied ways. Some children take their mothers out to eat, some give gifts, others call to say “I love you,” while others do all three. If gift-giving is a part of your tradition, the ideas below are thoughts you might wish to consider.
- Relaxed Clothing. When certain people become older, comfort trumps chic (although you can have both). Comfortable clothing that washes well is usually appreciated.
- Totes. Totes or closable bags allow women to carry around several items at one time. This gift is especially useful if your mother is in a nursing home, as she can take along her essentials while socializing with friends.
- Music. If your mom loves music, then maybe a CD player might be just what she is hoping for? If so, don’t forget the headphones and tunes!
- Crafts. If you are on a budget (or even if you’re not), this may be a wonderful idea. Maybe a photo collage of the family set on a backboard that complements her room? Or, perhaps, a bracelet made with Mom’s favorite stones or beads? Craft ideas are almost endless!
- House Cleaning. Some mothers can no longer perform chores they would desperately like to accomplish because of physical limitations. If this is the case with your mom, maybe volunteer to clean the attic, tidy the garage, or wash the windows. The stress will be off your mother’s mind, and your kindness will be cherished.
Mother’s Day is a perfect time to reflect on the living and deceased women who have made an impact in our lives. You do not have to spend much money, or even any money, to show your gratitude. Sometimes a gentle smile, heartfelt “thank you,” and your time, are all that is needed.
So, to all the beautiful women out there who have children, reared children, or mentored children in any way: Happy Mother’s Day!
